One year later

[Jeromy]

Hey guys, this has been on my mind for a while and i rlly hope u guys could help, ill try to make it as short as i can but its a complicated story.

Last year i went out with a girl for about 4 months and we were really close and one day we were partying and one thing led to another and we had sex. Everying was fine until she was starting to get parrarnoid and took a pregnancy test which told her she was pregnant. (even though we found out she wasnt) She told her "best friends" thinking they wouldnt tell anyone, but stereotypically, they did tell, and the entire school found out, and worst of all, she told her parents. At this point we were incredibly depressed and i broke up with her in fear of us getting torn apart. She felt i had abandoned her.

Now an exact year later i have finally exited my depression but i still think about her and i have been trying to get the guts to talk to her, but whenever i get the oppurtunity to, i just cant do it out of fear that she "wont care anymore" or "will think im pathetic" She also lost all her friends and resorted to doing drugs. But in the end, i can't bear not to have a peaceful conclusion to our relationship.

Thanks guys

[john]

Hey guys, this has been on my mind for a while and i rlly hope u guys could help, ill try to make it as short as i can but its a complicated story.

Last year i went out with a girl for about 4 months and we were really close and one day we were partying and one thing led to another and we had sex. Everying was fine until she was starting to get parrarnoid and took a pregnancy test which told her she was pregnant. (even though we found out she wasnt) She told her "best friends" thinking they wouldnt tell anyone, but stereotypically, they did tell, and the entire school found out, and worst of all, she told her parents. At this point we were incredibly depressed and i broke up with her in fear of us getting torn apart. She felt i had abandoned her.

Now an exact year later i have finally exited my depression but i still think about her and i have been trying to get the guts to talk to her, but whenever i get the oppurtunity to, i just cant do it out of fear that she "wont care anymore" or "will think im pathetic" She also lost all her friends and resorted to doing drugs. But in the end, i can't bear not to have a peaceful conclusion to our relationship.

Thanks guys



Well I would ask her out again and if she says no you have your concilusion prize.

[Jeromy]

thanks John, ive been thinking about it but what do you think would be the best way to approach / meet up with her, cuz we havent talked in such a long time and i dont want it to be such a shock when one day i just randomly come up and approach her, or maybe i just need to get the balls to do it, im not sure

[john]

thanks John, ive been thinking about it but what do you think would be the best way to approach / meet up with her, cuz we havent talked in such a long time and i dont want it to be such a shock when one day i just randomly come up and approach her, or maybe i just need to get the balls to do it, im not sure

Ok well first I know nothing about girls but, I would say when or if you walk by her wave then say hi then try so start something up then ask her out.

[Captain]

well until the last bit all taht hit in my mind was "WHAT THE HELL" but i guess now that she is pretty much figuratively socially bum fucked i think "real-time karma" has taken its tole and you might as well atleast talk to her.

There are many ways of approaching someone.
a senereo could be as follows : She is walking through school alone, you see her. Go and talk to her. GAUGE HER MOOD. If she is pissy or depressed etc. ask whats wrong but in a nice way. If she says no press once more and make sure she knows you are trying to help. Then if she rejects you again make eye contact and tell her that you will be there for her when need be. BUT should she give in and tell you, you are now obligated hopfully by morals to listen and offer HELPFUL advice usually swayed into the line of quitting drugs and trying to be more social.

From taht scenereo you should learn the basic keys. you need to offer support when they need it.It is importatnt that you learn to GAUGE moods and understand wtf is going on. if she seems like she doesnt want to talk but like in an "im busy GTFO" way say that hope to see her around. Then make apoint to talk every time you see her. especally when with friends. If she sees you making a sacrifice for her such as ditching friends she will feel more obligated to talk with u and strengthen your relationship.

well there is a crash corse.

[Jeromy]

thanks guys, I was thinking about doing it and i finally think that im ready, although i cant really tell why i waited so long. You guys really gave me some good ideas and i have decided I am going to talk to her as soon as I can, I'll tell you guys how it went!

Cheers

[Fenriz]

Maybe stop her and ask if she wanted to meet up some time and talk things over? Sometimes things can just be simple :)

[Jeromy]

Maybe stop her and ask if she wanted to meet up some time and talk things over? Sometimes things can just be simple :)

Ya i guess your right, at least i hope you are, I guess its about time i talk to her. The only reason i havent is because i was kind of depressed this entire time and it seems like the right thing to do. I hope i dont look like an asshole to her tho.

[Jeromy]

well its been a while since i posted anything but i talked to her on msn a day ago. Things were kinda weird, she wasnt at all the person i knew a year ago, she seemed cold and judged me like a piece of meat. I still constantly look back at how perfect ith thought our relationship was. She was the only girl i actually got anywhere with, but we did go a little bit too fast. But i still kinda feel as tho i will never find the person for me.

[Captain]

I tend to be a Hypocrite and it will stand true in saying that you WILL find someone that is for you.

I am sad to see that it didn't go as well as expected... well... hoped...

[Andy]

All I can say is that I hope you have learned from this.....
your brain is NOT IN YOUR PENIS. Please think more in future before jumping into bed with someone, especially at such a young age.
A little self-control wouldn't go amis.....just like a little bit more thought about the consequences of your actions. The ability to be able to act responsibly is key to life ;)